Comments on: The Truth about Emotions – A Soft Sell Confirmation! http://bridgingheartandmarketing.com/the-truth-about-emotions-%e2%80%93-a-soft-sell-confirmation/ Fri, 30 Jul 2010 14:08:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Jim http://bridgingheartandmarketing.com/the-truth-about-emotions-%e2%80%93-a-soft-sell-confirmation/comment-page-1/#comment-42 Jim Sat, 02 Feb 2008 00:16:58 +0000 http://bridgingheartandmarketing.com/the-truth-about-emotions-%e2%80%93-a-soft-sell-confirmation/#comment-42 Danielle, Yes, we agree. Openness and emotional availability is not always appropriate. In fact, as you say, there are circumstances where being "real" can be dangerous, because you will be taken advantage of. So the first need when meeting someone is to test the relationship. So . . . 1) When meeting someone for the first time, ask a lot of questions and then listen. Your first meeting is not about your talking but about your listening. Find out who you are with. Don't back off from your questions. They are the source of your comfort. 2) Even when you know someone and maybe even have worked with them, granted you will know a lot more about them. Even still, when you begin a new project --- test again. Things have changed. Make sure you know the lay of the land. And be sure to look for just how real and available the other person is. And trust your feelings. Feelings may be wrong at times , but usually not. Because It's All in the Connection, Judith & Jim http://www.bridgingheartandmarketing.com/invitation Danielle,

Yes, we agree. Openness and emotional availability is not always appropriate. In fact, as you say, there are circumstances where being “real” can be dangerous, because you will be taken advantage of.

So the first need when meeting someone is to test the relationship. So . . .

1) When meeting someone for the first time, ask a lot of questions and then listen. Your first meeting is not about your talking but about your listening. Find out who you are with.

Don’t back off from your questions. They are the source of your comfort.

2) Even when you know someone and maybe even have worked with them, granted you will know a lot more about them. Even still, when you begin a new project — test again. Things have changed. Make sure you know the lay of the land.

And be sure to look for just how real and available the other person is. And trust your feelings. Feelings may be wrong at times , but usually not.

Because It’s All in the Connection,
Judith & Jim
http://www.bridgingheartandmarketing.com/invitation

]]> By: Danielle http://bridgingheartandmarketing.com/the-truth-about-emotions-%e2%80%93-a-soft-sell-confirmation/comment-page-1/#comment-41 Danielle Fri, 01 Feb 2008 23:46:38 +0000 http://bridgingheartandmarketing.com/the-truth-about-emotions-%e2%80%93-a-soft-sell-confirmation/#comment-41 There's some really lovely food for thought here... thank you. Sometimes moving forward from a place of authenticity and openness, or "realness", has left me feeling very vulnerable and somewhat naive. Particularly in certain business circles where people just don't get it. Your insight and guidance is truly appreciated. Danielle There’s some really lovely food for thought here… thank you.

Sometimes moving forward from a place of authenticity and openness, or “realness”, has left me feeling very vulnerable and somewhat naive. Particularly in certain business circles where people just don’t get it.

Your insight and guidance is truly appreciated.

Danielle

]]> By: Jim http://bridgingheartandmarketing.com/the-truth-about-emotions-%e2%80%93-a-soft-sell-confirmation/comment-page-1/#comment-32 Jim Thu, 31 Jan 2008 03:31:40 +0000 http://bridgingheartandmarketing.com/the-truth-about-emotions-%e2%80%93-a-soft-sell-confirmation/#comment-32 Hi Ruth, I love your last line. "We must be a blessing in order to be blessed." And we bless by being real --- emotionally, intelectually, and spiritually real so that we guard ourselves against and prevent creating illusion. It's difficult enough, as it is, to remain integrous in this life, but to struggle through illusion just to get to the starting line is way too much to ask. We're so much better off blessing each other with the truth of who we are because that's a blessing in return even if others don't immediately reciprocate. And we also bless life and Source. Thanks for your thoughts. Jim http://www.bridgingheartandmarketing.com/blog Hi Ruth,

I love your last line. “We must be a blessing in order to be blessed.” And we bless by being real — emotionally, intelectually, and spiritually real so that we guard ourselves against and prevent creating illusion.

It’s difficult enough, as it is, to remain integrous in this life, but to struggle through illusion just to get to the starting line is way too much to ask.

We’re so much better off blessing each other with the truth of who we are because that’s a blessing in return even if others don’t immediately reciprocate. And we also bless life and Source.

Thanks for your thoughts.

Jim
http://www.bridgingheartandmarketing.com/blog

]]> By: Ruth http://bridgingheartandmarketing.com/the-truth-about-emotions-%e2%80%93-a-soft-sell-confirmation/comment-page-1/#comment-30 Ruth Thu, 31 Jan 2008 02:42:31 +0000 http://bridgingheartandmarketing.com/the-truth-about-emotions-%e2%80%93-a-soft-sell-confirmation/#comment-30 Thanks for reminding us once again of the need to be 'real' before we can be successful in selling. Whether we're promoting an idea, a product, a service or a philosophy, success requires trust on both sides. I plan to focus on this concept in more depth - in both my personal and business relationships. Transparency builds trust. Trust is simply faith in the 'rightness' of the relationship. We must be a blessing in order to be blessed. Thanks for reminding us once again of the need to be ‘real’ before we can be successful in selling. Whether we’re promoting an idea, a product, a service or a philosophy, success requires trust on both sides.

I plan to focus on this concept in more depth – in both my personal and business relationships. Transparency builds trust. Trust is simply faith in the ‘rightness’ of the relationship. We must be a blessing in order to be blessed.

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